1.Plan for the distant future.
One rule you can learn from TV: "never make any plans for future trans date unless they last longer than you do." Of course, in the non-sitcom world, once you have a serious, committed relationship, the rule is broken -- otherwise, no one can take a wedding vows -- but in the first month of a trans date, minimize your plans for the future. It should be a stress-free time to get to know each other.
2.Use the word "L".
You may be in love with the one, but don't drop the love bomb right away. Don;t overwhelm your trans date, protect your heart, and take your time. Enough time to talk about love. At the same time, keep "liking" and convince your date that you're interested in moving on.
3.Tell me about your future wedding.
Don't surpass yourself. If you're in a relationship for more than a month, you'll have plenty of time to plan your wedding. And no one wants to hear that you've been planning your wedding. It may come across as over-eager - or worse, desperate.
4.Introduce your date to your family.
It's one thing to have a drink with a friend or sibling, it's another to invite your date to your aunt's birthday party. Set aside the first month to get to know you. You don't want your grandmother to make a decision about the direction of your relationship before you do.
5.Things that stay together.
Don't buy dogs together, don't buy antique tables together, and don't buy zoo membership CARDS together. Don't even buy lottery tickets together.
Unless you're just splitting the bill for dinner, split the purchase. Otherwise, you're adding to the commitment prematurely.
6.Your ex.
Your date wants to get to know you, not the jerk who dumped you. In a long-term relationship, all the horror stories about trans dating are revealed. In the early stages of a relationship, don't fill your date with unnecessary (and painful) details.
7.Ask for money.
Don't do it. The first month of trans dating could turn into the last.
8.Give him a key.
Set some cautious boundaries for your burgeoning relationship. Don't integrate too early. Related: don't let him rearrange his life for you. You've been a transsexual for less than a month. Don't expect him to cancel a poker night because of your friend's red wine and cheese night. It's ok to live apart, especially at such an early age.
9.Show up at work.
Let her brag about you to all your colleagues for a few months before you show up. Her job is her space. To respect it. When you finally get to work, bring flowers.